Wednesday, 21 October 2015

22 Thoughts Of A 22 Year Old

Okay, I've been meaning to write this post for lets say about 6 months. Being the most inconsistent sporadic blogger on the planet, quite clearly you can see I have failed. It then hit me today I have 1 month left (well I did when I wrote this paragraph, now I have 3 weeks!) until I turn 23 and therefore would no longer be able to write a post on such an important year AND that I no longer will be able to sing '22' by TayTay and really mean it. I know, I'm as devastated as you are. 

On the topic of '22' by good old gal pal Swifty (We're not really gal pals but I totally wish we were), I remember pre 22 singing those lyrics like whatever 22 woooo and it really didn't mean a thing when I was singing I'm happy free confused and lonely in the best way. Like whatevs, they were just lyrics to my 21 year old mind. But no, I turned 22 and shit hit the fan and those lyrics finally took some serious meaning. Deep I know. Being 22 is probably the weirdest year you'll experience.....(yet?) You've graduated, you're in a shit ton of debt, the universe wants you to have a job, everything keeps changing all the time and for some odd reason people start asking you when you plan to have kids (what is with that?!)

Anyways, being the sensitive sausage that I am, I've done a lot of deep thinking, a lot of crying, a lot of laughing, a lot of crazy and a lot of stupid stuff this year. But then again, 22 doesn't have anything to do with that, that's just standard me. But yeah, its been a hell of a year and I thought it was FINALLY time to share the 22 thoughts of a 22 year old. Brace yourselves because I don't know where I'm going with this either. But I thought, if one person culd relate to my 22 year self then I'll be happy. And if not...send the men with the straight jackets this way please...

1. Don't expect for things to fall into place
Like for real, so many people think once they graduate and get past 21 they're supposed to be in a set career, half way to owning a mortgage and planning a small army of kids. It's really not like that.

2. Growing old is terrible, you will soon realise
You're gonna seriously long for those student days slobbing in your pjs, hanging out your butt and eating pot noodle. Life can get pretty scary post uni and there's no way to avoid that. I mean, who wants responsibility anyway?! 

3. Growing old is so much fun
Yes I said growing old is terrible but it's also really really fun. You have so much more freedom and choice with your life and you're okay with that. 

4. The world is your oyster
Spiraling from point 3, you have so much choice in life and you're just starting out. Go crazy!

5. Get ready for adult outgoings
So remember when your outgoings were your mobile phone bill and your mobile phone bill alone? Now it's rent, car, car insurance, petrol, phone bill, gym membership, bills bills and more bills. Oh get ready for that new lottery ticket addiction you fast develop.

6. Change is on every corner
One of the things I've struggled with the most is lack of consistency. Throughout your education things are always consistent, term time, school holidays, classmates etc. Losing that security that things pretty much remain in the same format for years is terrifying.

7.  Staying in contact is a challenge in itself
With change on every corner and all of your friends getting new jobs, moving across the country or the planet, it becomes harder and harder to stay in contact. So don't beat yourself up about that, trust me, the prospect of arranging a drink with local friends is a struggle, let alone with long distance friends. 

8. You wont be the same person you were a year ago
This one is a biggy, the transformation you take is mad, from responsibility to interests to passions, you'll develop into a braver, head on straight kind of you. You'll tend to start thinking things through a lot more. Your life just got adult.

9. Shared interests will become different interests
You'll begin to notice things some of your friends like doing is something you don't like doing anymore. Whether that's getting insanely hammered off your face or spending every weekend in a bar. That's all okay to, you're just becoming a new you.

10. You tend to question everything in life
Like for real, why do we go to university? what if I'm not on the right track? what if that opportunity doesn't work out how I wanted? what if deep down I was really meant to be the next 90s Britney Spears? Looooots of questions.

11. You'll start to look after yourself more
Remember that day at uni when you had a McDonalds for breakfast, a Pot Noodle for lunch and a Dominos for tea? Yeah you can't get away with that anymore so bye bye student eating and hello 'could I have a salad with that?'. 

12. You'll never have time to do anything
Or so it feels. You have an ongoing list of things you need to achieve and you just need one extra day in the week, week in the month and month in the year to do that

13. You're going to be too hard on yourself
You'll often compare yourself to where everyone else is at and that's not good. You made it this far and that's amazing so stop comparing your successes to everyone else. 

14. You'll slowly become your parents
Well I don't mean you'll morph into them and do everything they do but you'll catch yourself saying things they would say or approaching things how they would. You seriously just became adult. 

15. A lot of fashion decisions will be questioned
Like did you really go out in that short tight dress or those tiny black hot pants and a crop top those years ago? What were you thinking?

16. Success will take time
Don't expect to be the CEO of the universe by the time your 25 and therefore being 22 means you should already be senior manager of planet earth. Don't rush and don't be tough on yourself, you're doing just fine where you are.

17. 'Me' time is even more important than ever
It's pretty easy to get swept up into all the rubbish of your bad day/week and to be running around trying to please everyone before you realise you've exhausted yourself and don't feel as engaged with those things you used to love. Take a time out, lock yourself away, shut off your phone and do what you want to do. Do this at least once a week (I suck at maintaining this but I do try!). 

18. Breaking down doesn't mean you're not strong 
We've all been there on a bad day when the whole world is on your case and you just can't deal with it anymore and so you go and cry and you're a soppy mess and then you feel even more ridiculous because you can't remember why you were crying in the first place? Yeah, that's really okay.Don't beat yourself up about it as it happens to everyone. Ladies, you know what I mean. 

19. Do what YOU want to do
A weird habbit I noticed over the past 6 months is whenever I am with any of my friends the conversation tends to trail off to 'so when do you want to move out?' or 'when do you think you'll get married?' or 'where do you see your career going?' and quite frankly it's weird. You'll always find each friend has a different opinion of when is right to move out, get married, have kids, move careers etc etc etc etc. But your scenario is different so do what you are happy with and not what everyone else is telling you!

20. Find time to be creative
Whether it's blogging, painting, baking, sewing, photography, music etc, do it. It's so important. Pursue something that excites you and that you have a passion for. Express yourself in whatever way you can. If you want to be Beyonce...well you go and do that and when you do let me know how you get on because I want to be Beyonce too.
 
 21. Reach out to your friends
I think one of the biggest mistakes I made this year was not contacting friends on those crappy evenings when the day had been awful and I felt at an all time low. A few weeks back I used my common sense and called my best friend and told her everything that was on my mind (yes I may have cried a little too) and it turned out she had been through the exact same thing and had the best advice for me. And it was all better in the space of a 30 minute phone call. Turns out, someone will have experienced what you're going through at some point so talk talk talk, let it all out and even cry like a whaling cat if you have to. 

22. Being in your 20s is so confusing but I think that's okay
Seriously, one week I can be as happy as larry, raring to take on the world and the next week I have to seriously motivate myself to get out of bed in the morning because I just don't want to face planet earth. Everyone's winging it, every week will be different, we're all fighting our own battles and we're all just getting by okay. So don't freak out if you go through 5 life plans in one week and the next think you're on the wrong track. I think its supposed to happen and we're supposed to learn from it. 


Okay so if you made it through all 22 points and still are continuing to read my drivel then well done you. Go and treat yourself to a cake or something because even I am exhausted. I hope you enjoyed this and t least one human out there can relate to the 22 crazy thoughts of a 22 year old soon to be 23. DUN DUN DUN. 
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  1. I love this! So true and funny all at the same time. I've been 23 for a few months now but these thoughts are still with me!

    Victoria xx thedaisyjaynes.com

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